Looked at as an inspirational piece this is a great book. However, when taken as an operator's manual it subdues the most important ingredient, sensitivity to your partner. A gentleman's library should not be without the book, but it is reference book, not the bible of great oral sex, the kind that has the neighbors calling the police out of concern for the screams.
For openers, it's a wonderful subject. Judging from other reviews and comments from female friends there has been a near total failure of our educational system. Perhaps it began in the 60's with "Let's Get It On" without taking the care (and without enjoying the ecstasy) of a totally satisfied partner.
I thank grldvr for bringing this to my attention.
My reservations are primarily focused on the author's insistence on a single path to Valhalla......... But what are we, billions of different people , different sizes , shapes, moods etc. The list is endless. And with the same person there is a time when only the most patient and measured approach will achieve spectacular results while on another day you may be summoned to pull the car over , find some soft grass and spend only a few minutes before the pleasure becomes volcanic. Pilot's call it situational awareness. others call it moods....... there's a time when the mind if the woman is filled with all kinds of stuff conflicts, kids, dinner, what to wear, finances ( a real problem today) and the proper (and fun) approach may linger on toes for a considerable length of time and moving very slowly. At the other end of the spectrum just because dinner will be ready to be pulled from the oven in 15 minutes does not mean that you should deny her mood for an oral quickie, which can also achieve great results IF your partner is truly in the mood.
There are many good parts of the book. The discussion of all the wonderful parts of our partners is enlightening and useful. Perhaps a few larger drawings would have been better.
Knowing ones way around the promised land is certainly beneficial but taking the same path every day may not lead to the most fruitful experience. There's very little discussion about the partner's response. One of the great ways to communicate and share pleasure is to use a gentle tap to indicate "that is good" . The beauty of the system is that it only has positive inputs. I think it also puts the woman in closer touch with her feelings and while too many women feel that they have to be constantly pleasing their man, this provides them participation while focusing on their pleasure.
The author is spot on when it comes to assuring a woman that pleasuring her in this wonderful way brings pleasure to you. The second critical assurance is that this is a magnificent voyage, not a rush to the destination and that you will not abandon or rush her along the way. Just as we suffer from occasional performance anxiety, few things make it more difficult for the woman than the feeling you have allocated n minutes to this project.
But then the author, in my mind , goes far astray in his positions. First the body types of the couple make some differences. He has the man laying on top of the woman's legs which are closed at one point. For many this would be uncomfortable. Couples can find their own most comfortable positions when they understand the psychology of the subject. The edge of the bed, shower, woman on top all deserve to be explored.
Overall the book talks too much about tiny details on a single path approach. It's like a text for a ten week course. Far too complicated. The details may serve as a reference when you hit a stumbling block.
Kyle Moore
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