Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better: Wise Advice for Leaning into the Unknown

4.4 4.4 out of 5 stars | 572 ratings

Price: 8.56

Last update: 07-23-2024


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Kindle Customer
5.0 out of 5 stars Quick Read, Good Message
Reviewed in the United States on May 6, 2019
This book gives a look into a different way of seeing failure. Pema Chodron gives us a glimpse took her life and her own failures and how she sees them from a Buddhist perspective. She wants us to embrace failure so that we can sit with our uncomfortable feelings and recognize patterns that lead us down the wrong path time and again.
Tracy H.
5.0 out of 5 stars Great content, poor formatting of kindle version
Reviewed in the United States on September 4, 2015
Agree with the reviewer C. Taylor--five stars for the content. It's quite brief, as other reviewers have noted, but sometimes extremely valuable wisdom can be found in very small books. I wouldn't pay $9.99 for such a short kindle book by just any author on just any topic.
This one is going back, though. I have a kindle paperwhite ,but it's not available in this format, so I could only read it on my Samsung phone (or my son's kindle fire...but I have no desire to compete with him for it...pick your battles as they say). This and the need to magnify each paragraph on my phone while reading made for an unpleasant/difficult reading experience. Plus I couldn't highlight text, which is a must for me with nonfiction (and especially spiritually-oriented) books. It seems like each paragraph is an image of a paragraph of text rather than actual text. I might re-purchase later if the formatting issue is resolved. Or maybe I'll get the print version someday. It's one I'd like to re-read from time to time.

Dealing with failure on a spiritual level--using it to fuel spiritual growth, self-knowledge, and compassion for self and others--gets almost no press/discussion compared to things like 'how to turn your failure into success' or 'how I turned my failure into success.' I'm not knocking the failure-to-success genre (books, websites, online articles). I have found these helpful many times, and often still do. But at this stage of my life, I derive much more comfort and inspiration from other perspectives on failure/disappointment in oneself/mistakes. One of my favorite spiritual teachers/authors, Father Richard Rohr, says, "We don't come to God by doing it right. Please believe me on this. We come to God by doing it wrong. Any guide of souls knows this to be true. If we come to God by being perfect, no one is going to come to God. This absolutely levels the playing field. Our failures open our hearts of stone and move the rigid mind space toward understanding and patience." Pema Chodron invites us to approach failure differently, and gives concrete advice on how to do so. I also enjoyed the humor she interjected into the commencement speech (the image of a 79 year old Buddhist nun saying “OMG!!” just makes me laugh every time I think of it :-).

The current low average star rating will probably discourage folks less familiar (or unfamiliar) with Pema Chodron's books from buying this one, which is unfortunate. I’ll give it a 5-star rating, but I understand why others have chosen to do otherwise. To the reviewer C. Taylor --thank you for your efforts in contacting Amazon and SoundsTrue. Hope they fix these soon.

For those of you who purchased the kindle version--if you don't know this, then FYI - you can return kindle books within 7 days for a full refund, for any reason. I’ve purchased hundreds of kindle books over the past 5? 6? years and wish I'd known this sooner. I don't return books often, but I’ve had a few cases of near-immediate buyer's remorse over the years. Anyway, this is the first one I'm returning for formatting issues.

[Edit; Regarding my comment about returning e-books for any reason--I should add Amazon might object if you try to use their 7 day return policy as a kindle book lending library. I'm not sure, but I don't do this and don't intend to (it's not fair to Amazon or the author). But if I'm really dissatisfied with a book and decide to return it, I've never had a problem doing so. Note: sometimes you can return these without contacting customer service, but other times, for whatever reason, return isn't one of the options, even if it's been within 7 days. In that case I contact customer service and tell them I want to return it because I didn't like it. They take care of it, no questions asked.]
HarbinCreative
5.0 out of 5 stars Pema's Wisdom Distilled in One Precious Small Volume. Read It!
Reviewed in the United States on February 20, 2016
Pema hits it out of the ballpark again. What a remarkable woman she is. Personally, I have tried to read all her books and have never gone away disappointed. This particular small volume is like a very thick and rich chocolate cake, very filling, fattening (on the good side) and enlightening. The title says it all but it has legs because Pema discloses some intimate details of her life (which I did not realize till now) and how it relates to failure. She is a precious and approachable teacher, not only of Buddhism, but of how to live your life sanely and well. Highly recommend.
hondast1100
4.0 out of 5 stars Words and examples of inspiration for defeating those failures in life.
Reviewed in the United States on December 26, 2016
Upon opening this book I learned that it contained a commencement speech given by Pema to a graduating university class. At first I was a little disappointed because I was expecting more words and less art and white space on the pages. The speech was for the most part quite invigorating and motivating but I was left wanting more. So the second section where Pema is interviewed is where I got more of what I was looking for. The interview in the back of the book is quite inspiring. It was so nice to see this Buddhist Nun give her own examples of failure and how she dealt with these life events that could have brought her down for the rest of her life. The book is a quick or short read and it really left me wanting more which is why I gave it 4 out of 5 stars.
Mare
5.0 out of 5 stars Perfect timing
Reviewed in the United States on December 27, 2015
Oh the places you'll go....on your path! Thank you, Pema, for yet another beautifully and simply worded lesson. I wish I had had Pema speak at my graduation! :)
It's been many years since I've graduated but I'm happy to still be learning. Pema's books are all wonderful lessons in being open and present to what is and to being kind yourself. I'm moving into another phase of my life, going through enormous changes that can be awesome, terrifying, funny and full of grace- all at the same time, sometimes.
I'm comforted and inspired by and full of gratitude for Pema Chodron.
This book about failing can be applied to so many different situations that I recommend it to everyone.
I wish you all well.
Igor Ganapolsky
5.0 out of 5 stars Good advice for those who have failed.
Reviewed in the United States on January 21, 2016
Being a long time fan of Pema Chodron, I decided to try this book. I had a recent failure in my life, and was really looking for guidance on how to proceed. I like that Pema gives an overview of what it means to fail, and gives practical advice on becoming mindful of the failure process. She then lays out an optimistic outlook for anybody who's on the spiritual path, and encourages you to face the fear of failure.
JohnnyC
3.0 out of 5 stars A good little present for a graduating senior
Reviewed in the United States on November 2, 2015
Ordinarily, I just love Pema, and in fact I think I have pretty-much everything she's written; however, I guess I was expecting just a "little more" when I ordered this one. This is a nice little book which documents a graduation speech she did. It's a good message, but you can read the whole thing in just a few minutes. If you want just a little something to give to a graduating senior along with some other little gift, this would be good. If you want something that's more detailed (like most of Pema's other books), look elsewhere.
Patricia Croisier
5.0 out of 5 stars This book is a wonderful way to get to know her gently as she ...
Reviewed in the United States on October 15, 2015
I've just begun to get to know Pema Chodron's teachings. This book is a wonderful way to get to know her gently as she talks about failures, making mistakes, regrets. It is an interesting lesson to be delivering to a college graduating class. Yet she could be presenting these words to any group of people at any age. There is a timeless, universal truth to what she is saying and it makes you smile at its simplicity. She is sweet, kind and very believable as she opens up her own life for examples. This is a quick read (I consumed on an airplane) that definitely makes you want to learn more about Buddhism through her voice.

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