The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read: (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
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Last update: 09-07-2024
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More than 1.3 million copies sold worldwide!
“A wonderful book”―Richard Osman
“If you're determinedly not a self-help kind of reader (like me), make an exception for [this book]. And if you're not a parent, don't dismiss it. The message is one of non-judgmental kindness.”―Vogue (London)
How can we have better relationships?
In this instant Sunday Times bestseller, leading psychotherapist Philippa Perry reveals the vital do's and don'ts of relationships. This is a book for us all. Whether you are interested in understanding how your upbringing has shaped you, looking to handle your child's feelings or wishing to support your partner, you will find indispensable information and realistic tips here. Philippa Perry's sane, sage and judgement-free advice is an essential resource on how to have the best possible relationships with the people who matter to you most.
Top reviews from the United States
A theme common to many of these parental-advice books is to frame matters in training terms: Sleep training, potty training, discipline training, and so on. While the training mindset may be useful for specific subjects a child needs to learn, it’s inadequate to the big picture of parenting. That’s what makes Philippa Perry’s “The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read” a refreshing and highly worthwhile alternative to read.
Perry, who practices as a psychotherapist and admits to her own parenting faults refreshingly and openly in her book, makes the excellent case that, fundamentally, “we should not see our babies, children, and teenagers as chores to feed and clean or otherwise fix but as people from the start, people we are going to have lifelong relationships with”. In an engaging and warm tone, Perry offers thoughtful and accessible advice useful not only for parents, but for grandparents, aunts and uncles, and even adult children as well. Over and over, she directs many of the common complaints and conflicts of adult-and-child interactions to the root cause of considering the underlying relationship.
It’s hard to look at a newborn and imagine that in very little time at all, that diapered bundle of cries will turn into an adult. But the more deliberately the adults around that child consider their relationships with the child (especially in times of conflict, but also when laying the groundwork to avoid conflict), the better the outlook for how both individuals and the relationship between them will mature.
This is a book with insights containing value for anyone – even a childless orphan of advanced years, unless perhaps that individual is cloistered away from all human contact. But everyone else can gain at least some useful insight into relationships between generations, whether for current relationships or for understanding past ones. Perry reminds the reader that, even though we are all imperfect, parents (and other adults) don’t have to strive to perfect the children in their orbits, because “[Y]ou are creating a person to love, not a work of art”. The book’s title may be over-the-top, but its advice is exceedingly well-grounded.
The book goes beyond traditional parenting manuals, focusing on the emotional aspects of parenting and encouraging parents to reflect on their own upbringing. Perry provides practical tools to build communication, empathy, and understanding within the family dynamic. Her conversational writing style and real-life examples make the book accessible and relatable.
"The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read" is a valuable resource for both new and experienced parents, offering a holistic approach to parenting that emphasizes emotional connection. It challenges conventional wisdom and invites parents to embrace a more open and compassionate approach, making it a recommended read for anyone seeking to enhance their parenting journey.
Reviewed in the United States on February 10, 2024
The book goes beyond traditional parenting manuals, focusing on the emotional aspects of parenting and encouraging parents to reflect on their own upbringing. Perry provides practical tools to build communication, empathy, and understanding within the family dynamic. Her conversational writing style and real-life examples make the book accessible and relatable.
"The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read" is a valuable resource for both new and experienced parents, offering a holistic approach to parenting that emphasizes emotional connection. It challenges conventional wisdom and invites parents to embrace a more open and compassionate approach, making it a recommended read for anyone seeking to enhance their parenting journey.
It made me realize a couple of things I most probably wouldn't have w/o reading this book. It is very practical and has a lot of deep rooted/backed knowledge. In addition, it is an easy read (English is my 2nd language).
I would dare say that it encourages to maximally exploit the pratice of empathy, and how to nurture emotionally healthy connections with your children. I highly recommend it!
It made me feel seen, validated my experiences as a child, and made no judgements about all the mistakes I've made as a parent. And after i was healed, it turned me around and pointed me at my child, so i can now begin to heal them of the trauma I've caused unwittingly, and ease them into a life of security and love, and don't we all want that for our children?
Reviewed in the United States on March 27, 2024
It made me feel seen, validated my experiences as a child, and made no judgements about all the mistakes I've made as a parent. And after i was healed, it turned me around and pointed me at my child, so i can now begin to heal them of the trauma I've caused unwittingly, and ease them into a life of security and love, and don't we all want that for our children?
This book delves into crucial topics like effective communication, empathy, and nurturing a child's emotional intelligence. It not only provides valuable guidance but also emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and growth as a parent.
As a reader, I found myself nodding in agreement with so many passages. It's a powerful reminder that parenting is a continuous learning experience, and this book is an invaluable resource to help parents on that journey.