When Sorry Isn't Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love

4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars | 1,832 ratings

Price: 17.05

Last update: 09-05-2024


About this item

"I said I was sorry!"

Even in the best of relationships, all of us make mistakes. We do and say things we later regret and hurt the people we love most. So we need to make things right. But simply saying you’re sorry is usually not enough.

In this audiobook, number-one New York Times best-selling author Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas unveil new ways to effectively approach and mend fractured relationships. Even better, you’ll discover how meaningful apologies provide the power to make your friendships, family, and marriage stronger than ever before. When Sorry Isn’t Enough will help you

  • Cool down heated arguments
  • Offer apologies that are fully accepted
  • Rekindle love that has been dimmed by pain
  • Restore and strengthen valuable relationships
  • Trade in tired excuses for honesty, trust, and joy

This book was previously published as The Five Languages of Apology. Content has been significantly revised and updated.


Top reviews from the United States

The Grumpy Guy
5.0 out of 5 stars LEARN HOW TO EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATE AND APOLOGIZE!!
Reviewed in the United States on December 26, 2019
JUST BUY IT IF YOU CAN'T OR WON'T SAY YOU ARE SORRY....SAY YOU ARE SORRY TOO MUCH!!! This book in my opinion is a SLAM DUNK WINNER! In every possible way in understanding how important it is that most of the time "SORRY" just doesn't cut it. I know for me I over use the word and it has lost its impact with the people who I care for and love. If you are not afraid to getting to look inside of yourself, take a moral inventory and process the information, you can come out the other side a better person. You will have the ability to apologise in a better way, avoiding the pitfalls of apologizing for the wrong reasons or just for ending an argument. You can get to understand and learn how to speak with your partner the way they need to hear it not the way you want to say it. We all have different ideas on what is the right way to say that you are sorry. I for one am glad that I took the time to read this and listened to the authors advise. The book is an easy read, well written and full of helpful advice. I would buy this again. As for packaging.... It's book so really hard to damage. Shipping was quick. Seller did a great job.
My dog prefers the Texas Beef version. She does not like this flavor at all.
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book
Reviewed in the United States on August 4, 2024
Great book and makes seems
Henry
5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended
Reviewed in the United States on September 20, 2020
Light reading, but powerful, highly valuable information. Offers fascinating insights into human nature and how to better and more sincerely strike a chord with your apology. Never knew there were five languages of apology until reading this gem. Very useful, especially if you are the type of individual who not infrequently says or does the wrong thing, or if your style of apology seems to be falling on deaf ears. The authors even include sample scripts of how to verbalize your regrets, and in the process improve the quality of your relationships at home and beyond . Thank you Gary and Jennifer!
Brandi
4.0 out of 5 stars When sorry isnt enough...
Reviewed in the United States on September 20, 2016
I love this book because it is simple and easy to read. It covers the basics without going into lofty flights of prose and thought. Just what you need to do, and that's it. That doesn't mean taking action is easy, but their goal is give you understanding as simply as possible.

This is not a theology book. It's a practical how-to book. You'll find some Scriptures, and it's written from a Christian worldview, but mainly Thomas and Chapman draw on their years of counselling experience. The facts of sin and repentance are already assumed; they're out to tell you how to put that knowledge to practical use. They had a lot of stories with couples, singles, young and old, family and friends, to give a wide scope of how these principles work. I found the life experience aspect a refreshing inclusion.

In some ways this book was a hard, hard read. I have an extremely tender conscience, with an extreme perfectionism streak. This makes it difficult to accept messing up, while at the same time I don't like ignoring what I've done wrong. It is difficult to go through the apology process, but the older I get, the more I want an authentic, growing relationship with Christ and with family and friends. In that sense, it was convicting.

On the other hand, some of it was incredibly healing. The author duo explain that it's not wrong to want justice, as long as you handle that desire righteously. Nor does forgiveness mean that your memory is wiped of the event. Nor should you allow people to manipulate you with poor and insincere apologies.

Nor should you implode and refuse to forgive yourself.

As for the apology languages themselves? Oftentimes the way you give an apology is your personal language. So think of the last one you gave, and what you said--any of the phrases up top ring with you? My apology language is Expressing Regret, with Accepting Responsibility being a close second. (Though in rare cases I feel pretty strongly about Making Restitution.)

I appreciated this teaching, would highly recommend it, and hope to read it again. I think I'll need some time to fully process it; but I was so blessed by When Sorry Isn't Enough, and I hope you will be too.
Darth Spader
5.0 out of 5 stars Good book for human beings.
Reviewed in the United States on July 13, 2018
TLDR version: If you're a human being, like myself, you make mistakes. In fact, you probably make mistakes, just like I do, every day. But how often do you actually reconcile those mistakes? What impact does that have on your interpersonal relationships? This book is a great guide to navigating that, but also to be more in tune with the language of apology and repentance (not in a religious facet). I'd say that this isn't a silver bullet, but should be coupled with counseling if you have important personal relationships in real jeopardy.

More detail:
This book analyzes apologies and pushes you towards understanding not only the value of a good apology, but how to make sure you're most effective in delivering that apology. To be clear, this isn't a book that teaches you how to lie through an apology and get away with things, but a book that teaches you (with examples) how to deliver a sincere apology and what happens next. It goes through several hangups that may be stopping you from reconciling with loved ones, and is realistic about what to expect after.

Keep in mind that this isn't a silver bullet or a step-by-step guide on how to reconcile, but it certainly gives you a good framework to go from. There's an aspect of self-discovery involved, and even after the apology, this book is clear that you're at the mercy of the recipient of your apology, so no false promises of being forgiven right away (or even at all!).

Now, the less than awesome (at least in my mind). This book assumes some level of Christian faith, and while that's not always a bad thing in moderation, this veers over towards more of a religious counselor style book at times. If you're not Christian, portions of this book that use examples from the Christian texts may bore or just water the point of the story being told down. Ignore the religious aspects and focus on what the moral of the story being told is, and you'll get through it.
Genny Godwin
5.0 out of 5 stars Love this book
Reviewed in the United States on April 27, 2024
If you like how love languages help you love someone better than this will teach you apology languages to say sorry better.

Best Sellers in

 
 

Three Magic Words

4.7 4.7 out of 5 stars 2157
12.24
 
 

Soul Care: Find Life-Giving Rhythms. Live Restored. Avoid Burnout. Discover Unspeakable Joy.

5 5 out of 5 stars 29
13.76
 
 

Feeding the Soul (Because It's My Business): Finding Our Way to Joy, Love, and Freedom

4.9 4.9 out of 5 stars 9169
17.32
 
 

The Fight for Female: Reclaiming Our Divine Identity

5 5 out of 5 stars 27
21.43
 
 

The Game of Life and How to Play It: The Complete Original Edition

4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 330
7.21
 
 

Essential Meditations with Eckhart Tolle: Guided Sessions and Practical Teachings

4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars 17
5.99
 
 

What You Need to Know About the Rapture

0 0 out of 5 stars 3
42.87
 
 

America's Apocalyptic Reset: Unmasking the Radical's Blueprints to Silence Christians, Patriots, and Conservatives

4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 337
17.46