Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less than, Left Out, and Lonely

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Do you ever feel left out, lonely, or less than? Learn the secret of belonging, which will help you keep rejections in perspective and be better equipped to foster healthy connections in your relationships.

New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst shares her own deeply personal experiences of rejection from the perceived judgment of the perfectly toned woman one elliptical over to the incredibly painful childhood abandonment by her father. She leans in to honestly examine the roots of rejection, as well as rejection's ability to poison relationships from the inside out, including our relationship with God. With biblical depth, gut-honest vulnerability, and refreshing wit, Lysa will help you:

  • Stop feeling left out by believing that even when you are overlooked by others you are handpicked by God.
  • Change your tendency to either fall apart or control the actions of others by embracing God-honoring ways to process your hurt.
  • Know exactly what to pray for the next ten days to steady your soul and restore your confidence in the midst of rejection.
  • Overcome the two core fears that feed your insecurities by understanding the secret of belonging.

Uninvited reminds us we are destined for a love that can never be diminished, tarnished, shaken, or taken—a love that does not reject, but instead accepts and invites.

Look for additional biblically based resources and devotionals from Lysa:

  • Good Boundaries and Goodbyes
  • Forgiving What You Can't Forget
  • It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way
  • You're Going to Make It
  • Embraced
  • Seeing Beautiful Again


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  • Kristin B.
    5.0 out of 5 stars A Must-Read for Christian Women of All Ages!
    Reviewed in the United States on January 23, 2017
    Nearly every woman has, or will, experience loneliness and rejection at some point in her life, be it from a relationship, friendship, career, school, etc. Sadly, it's a fact of life and it's an area where many of us have a hard time because we seek answers and sometimes we don't get them. I've had my fair share of loneliness and rejection and, a few years ago, I experienced a devastating end to a friendship. I had no idea why and kept going over and over it in my head, trying to get answers even though my husband kept telling me that I needed to let her go and move on. The thing is, I didn't know how to move on. It seems a lot easier said than done. Over the last several months, I've purchased some Christian inspiration books and Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst showed up as a recommended purchase. I knew nothing about it but had heard of the author from when I listened to K-LOVE. I was unsure if I wanted to buy this book but I saw it in a local store, paged through it, and liked what I saw so I came home and ordered it right away.

    Uninvited is a Christian-based book meant to help women feel loved when they experience loneliness and rejection. It is divided into 16 chapters which include anecdotes from Lysa TerKeurst's life from when she, or someone close to her, felt rejected or unloved. In each chapter she talks about how she handled the situation, be it positive or negative. She references stories and verses from the Bible and applies them to her thinking about how to handle each issue. She also uses her life experiences to enhance her discussions. In addition to the 16 chapters, there is a bonus chapter, Assessment and Corrective Experience Chart (both of which can be printed from the book's website as well), a section on the Scriptures she uses which are organized by chapter, along with main points and ideas she would like us to remember, which are also organized by chapter.

    When I set out to read this book, I figured I would read it within a couple days like I usually do. However, after I finished the first couple of chapters on that first day, I realized there is a lot to process in each chapter. A good portion of the book encourages some deep, self-reflection and, for me at least, to read it in a couple days wouldn't have been beneficial. I ended up reading a couple chapters each day and spent some time afterwards thinking about what I'd read so this book took me about a week to read. I enjoyed Lysa TerKeurst's wit and the way she drew me into her writing. I wouldn't say this is a funny ha-ha book and it doesn't necessarily make light on the topics of loneliness and rejection; rather, her personality and writing caused me to snicker once in awhile and that made her that much more relatable. I was actually able to put myself in her shoes more than once and look at the situations in a different, and more positive, light.

    If you are considering purchasing this book, please don't buy it thinking it will have all of the answers to your questions and problems. It doesn't say in order to feel loved after this type of situation, you need to do this, and bam, it's fixed. Uninvited is a book that requires some reflection and self-analysis as well as some time to process the readings. Even after spending a week with this book, I still don't feel like I've fully utilized all of the wonderful ideas and thoughts included in this book so I'm glad I purchased it so I can read it several more times. I ended up purchasing the paperback copy and the one thing I wish I would've done from the start is to use my journal while I read it so I could write down some important thoughts and Bible verses that stuck out to me. During my college career, I discovered the most effective way I learn is to write something down and that would've benefited me greatly to do that with this book. If you purchase the Kindle edition, you could either highlight and make some notes on your Kindle or use a journal and if you purchase the paperback copy, you may want to journal as well. There are important thoughts to remember noted in the back of the book but I prefer to write them down separately and, if you are the same way, I'd recommend grabbing a journal while reading this.

    I cannot tell you how grateful and happy I am to have discovered this book. I loved the way Lysa TerKeurst writes and she inserts Bible verses and God to support her points. Obviously I'm not fully healed from some of the pain and rejection I've experienced but this book has helped to start the healing process and encouraged me to open my eyes and see that sometimes those bad experiences can be blessings in disguise. The next time I read this, and it will be soon, I will be grabbing my journal because, for me, that will more effectively help me process some of the thoughts and points made in this book. I highly encourage any woman, young or old, who has ever felt the pain of rejection, to pick up this book. It is beautifully-written, honest, and will leave you feeling more peaceful, loved, and able to enjoy the beautiful lives God has planned for us.
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    Kristin B.
    5.0 out of 5 stars A Must-Read for Christian Women of All Ages!
    Reviewed in the United States on January 23, 2017
    Nearly every woman has, or will, experience loneliness and rejection at some point in her life, be it from a relationship, friendship, career, school, etc. Sadly, it's a fact of life and it's an area where many of us have a hard time because we seek answers and sometimes we don't get them. I've had my fair share of loneliness and rejection and, a few years ago, I experienced a devastating end to a friendship. I had no idea why and kept going over and over it in my head, trying to get answers even though my husband kept telling me that I needed to let her go and move on. The thing is, I didn't know how to move on. It seems a lot easier said than done. Over the last several months, I've purchased some Christian inspiration books and Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst showed up as a recommended purchase. I knew nothing about it but had heard of the author from when I listened to K-LOVE. I was unsure if I wanted to buy this book but I saw it in a local store, paged through it, and liked what I saw so I came home and ordered it right away.

    Uninvited is a Christian-based book meant to help women feel loved when they experience loneliness and rejection. It is divided into 16 chapters which include anecdotes from Lysa TerKeurst's life from when she, or someone close to her, felt rejected or unloved. In each chapter she talks about how she handled the situation, be it positive or negative. She references stories and verses from the Bible and applies them to her thinking about how to handle each issue. She also uses her life experiences to enhance her discussions. In addition to the 16 chapters, there is a bonus chapter, Assessment and Corrective Experience Chart (both of which can be printed from the book's website as well), a section on the Scriptures she uses which are organized by chapter, along with main points and ideas she would like us to remember, which are also organized by chapter.

    When I set out to read this book, I figured I would read it within a couple days like I usually do. However, after I finished the first couple of chapters on that first day, I realized there is a lot to process in each chapter. A good portion of the book encourages some deep, self-reflection and, for me at least, to read it in a couple days wouldn't have been beneficial. I ended up reading a couple chapters each day and spent some time afterwards thinking about what I'd read so this book took me about a week to read. I enjoyed Lysa TerKeurst's wit and the way she drew me into her writing. I wouldn't say this is a funny ha-ha book and it doesn't necessarily make light on the topics of loneliness and rejection; rather, her personality and writing caused me to snicker once in awhile and that made her that much more relatable. I was actually able to put myself in her shoes more than once and look at the situations in a different, and more positive, light.

    If you are considering purchasing this book, please don't buy it thinking it will have all of the answers to your questions and problems. It doesn't say in order to feel loved after this type of situation, you need to do this, and bam, it's fixed. Uninvited is a book that requires some reflection and self-analysis as well as some time to process the readings. Even after spending a week with this book, I still don't feel like I've fully utilized all of the wonderful ideas and thoughts included in this book so I'm glad I purchased it so I can read it several more times. I ended up purchasing the paperback copy and the one thing I wish I would've done from the start is to use my journal while I read it so I could write down some important thoughts and Bible verses that stuck out to me. During my college career, I discovered the most effective way I learn is to write something down and that would've benefited me greatly to do that with this book. If you purchase the Kindle edition, you could either highlight and make some notes on your Kindle or use a journal and if you purchase the paperback copy, you may want to journal as well. There are important thoughts to remember noted in the back of the book but I prefer to write them down separately and, if you are the same way, I'd recommend grabbing a journal while reading this.

    I cannot tell you how grateful and happy I am to have discovered this book. I loved the way Lysa TerKeurst writes and she inserts Bible verses and God to support her points. Obviously I'm not fully healed from some of the pain and rejection I've experienced but this book has helped to start the healing process and encouraged me to open my eyes and see that sometimes those bad experiences can be blessings in disguise. The next time I read this, and it will be soon, I will be grabbing my journal because, for me, that will more effectively help me process some of the thoughts and points made in this book. I highly encourage any woman, young or old, who has ever felt the pain of rejection, to pick up this book. It is beautifully-written, honest, and will leave you feeling more peaceful, loved, and able to enjoy the beautiful lives God has planned for us.
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  • Amazon Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Challenging in a good way
    Reviewed in the United States on October 30, 2024
    This book spoke to what I needed when I needed it. I love how it went over rejection, breakups, and comparison, things we all deal with. How to overcome insecurities and live to our full potential. It helps you to take a deep dive into your life and feelings and gives you hope with the work you’re putting in.
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    5.0 out of 5 stars Challenging in a good way
    Reviewed in the United States on October 30, 2024
    This book spoke to what I needed when I needed it. I love how it went over rejection, breakups, and comparison, things we all deal with. How to overcome insecurities and live to our full potential. It helps you to take a deep dive into your life and feelings and gives you hope with the work you’re putting in.
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  • bveinotte
    5.0 out of 5 stars Facing Rejection
    Reviewed in the United States on October 1, 2016
    The enemy wants us to feel rejected . . . left out, lonely, and less than. When we allow him to speak lies through our rejection, he pickpockets our purpose. Cripples our courage. Dismantles our dreams. And blinds us to the beauty of Christ’s powerful love.

    In Uninvited, Lysa shares her own deeply personal experiences with rejection—from the incredibly painful childhood abandonment by her father to the perceived judgment of the perfectly toned woman one elliptical over.

    With biblical depth, gut-honest vulnerability, and refreshing wit, Lysa helps readers:
    -Release the desire to fall apart or control the actions of others by embracing God-honoring ways to process their hurt.
    -Know exactly what to pray for the next ten days to steady their soul and restore their confidence.
    -Overcome the two core fears that feed our insecurities by understanding the secret of belonging.
    -Stop feeling left out and start believing that "set apart" does not mean "set aside."
    -End the cycle of perceived rejection by refusing to turn a small incident into a full blown issue.

    As you walk through the up and downs of life and end up feeling rejected yet again, Lysa leads you to ask three simple questions:

    Is God good?

    Is God good to me?

    Do I trust God to be God?

    This was a book that I deeply needed to read. I think every woman has felt the pain of rejection at some point in her life. God is the only one who we can get our identity from. Uninvited deals with the enemy's way of trying to make you feel like you're the only one who feels left out, how he tries to isolate you in your own head. Rejection delves deeper into the roots of our self doubt, insecurities, and so much more. Lysa gives scripture to show how to handle these feelings and to show that you're not alone in this. God is prepared for all of it.

    Favorite quotes:
    1) Honesty isn’t trying to hurt me. It’s trying to heal me
    (2) Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst of what’s been said to me
    (3) Acceptance is like an antibiotic that prevents past rejections from turning into present-day infections. The need for belonging runs deep
    (4) If you want to know what’s really inside a person, listen carefully to the words she speaks
    (5) When a man is physically present but emotionally absent, a girl’s heart can feel quite hollow and helpless
    (6) The mind feasts on what it focuses on. What consumes my thinking will be the making or the breaking of my identity
    (7) The beliefs we hold should hold us up even when life feels like it’s falling apart
    (8) Live from the abundant pace that you are loved, and you won't find yourself begging others for scraps of love
    (9) There is something wonderfully sacred that happens when a girl chooses to realize that being set aside is actually God’s call for her to be set apart
    (10) People who care more about being right than ending right prove just how wrong they were all along.

    *This book was provided to me for my honest review by BookLook Bloggers
  • Lily Macias
    5.0 out of 5 stars Love!!
    Reviewed in the United States on November 3, 2024
    This is my favorite book ever! It is so good to read if you have ever had feelings of regection it does good circling you back to Jesus Christ.

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