Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars | 433 ratings

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Last update: 09-28-2024


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Julie A.
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for every marriage, at any stage!
Reviewed in the United States on March 30, 2024
What if I told you your relationship wasn’t flawed, but instead the flaw lies in all of the noise we are inundated with, dictating what our relationships are supposed to look like and what we are supposed to be getting out of them? We are often misguided in how we believe we should relate to one another, bombarded with misinformation that individuals must first be whole before they can be good to anyone else. What if instead “wholeness” exists in its purest form when we have a partner to help us navigate and co-regulate through life’s ups and downs? Want to know more about quieting the noise and existing in the love and support of a secure relationship, then this is the book for you! "Secure Love" by Julie Menanno skillfully navigates attachment theory within the context of marriage, offering SIMPLE and EASY actionable strategies for understanding and meeting each other's attachment needs. Through relatable anecdotes and insightful guidance, Julie illuminates how attachment styles manifest in relationships, empowering couples to cultivate deeper emotional connections and foster a sense of security and intimacy. This book is an indispensable resource for couples seeking to navigate the intricacies of attachment theory and cultivate a more fulfilling and resilient partnership.

In over 20 years of reading and researching ways to strengthen marriage, never have I found a more useful tool than "Secure Love". It's as close as you'll get to an easy-to-read, easy-to-digest guidebook for marriage. Julie Menanno effortlessly explains attachment theory and how it shapes our interactions with our partners, influencing the overall health of our relationships. Through relatable examples and practical advice, this book illuminates ways in which partners can better understand each other's attachment needs, creating a deeper sense of connection and security.

What resonated most with me was Menanno's emphasis on the importance of recognizing and honoring each other's attachment styles. By acknowledging our individual needs and vulnerabilities, my husband and I are beginning to cultivate a more compassionate and supportive partnership. This book has provided invaluable tools for navigating conflicts and strengthening our emotional bond. Implementing the concept of co-regulation has quickly brought about a positive shift in the way we relate. It's amazing how rapidly things can change just by implementing a few simple tools.

On a recent family trip to NYC, my husband and I each finished reading “Secure Love” independently. During our drive home, we downloaded and listened to “Secure Love” on Audible, pausing briefly to discuss each chapter as it ended. I highly recommend this approach to anyone seeking their own secure relationship. Taking time to process the information first as individuals and then together, my husband and I both agree that it was almost as if we had read two separate books. Every once in a while, a book written so purely that you can draw what is needed at the time and later pick it back up and take away something completely different. “Secure Love” is one of those books. This is one of those books that facilitates continued learning based on current perspective. Who could ask for a better tool for their marriage than that? My husband and I have decided that in six months, we will repeat the process of reading the book alone and then listening to the audiobook together. We will probably adopt this practice indefinitely.

Reading "Secure Love" felt like embarking on a journey of self-discovery and growth alongside my partner. Menanno's insights provided a roadmap for fostering a relationship grounded in trust, empathy, and mutual understanding. I highly recommend this book to any couple seeking to deepen their connection and cultivate a more secure and fulfilling relationship.
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Julie A.
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for every marriage, at any stage!
Reviewed in the United States on March 30, 2024
What if I told you your relationship wasn’t flawed, but instead the flaw lies in all of the noise we are inundated with, dictating what our relationships are supposed to look like and what we are supposed to be getting out of them? We are often misguided in how we believe we should relate to one another, bombarded with misinformation that individuals must first be whole before they can be good to anyone else. What if instead “wholeness” exists in its purest form when we have a partner to help us navigate and co-regulate through life’s ups and downs? Want to know more about quieting the noise and existing in the love and support of a secure relationship, then this is the book for you! "Secure Love" by Julie Menanno skillfully navigates attachment theory within the context of marriage, offering SIMPLE and EASY actionable strategies for understanding and meeting each other's attachment needs. Through relatable anecdotes and insightful guidance, Julie illuminates how attachment styles manifest in relationships, empowering couples to cultivate deeper emotional connections and foster a sense of security and intimacy. This book is an indispensable resource for couples seeking to navigate the intricacies of attachment theory and cultivate a more fulfilling and resilient partnership.

In over 20 years of reading and researching ways to strengthen marriage, never have I found a more useful tool than "Secure Love". It's as close as you'll get to an easy-to-read, easy-to-digest guidebook for marriage. Julie Menanno effortlessly explains attachment theory and how it shapes our interactions with our partners, influencing the overall health of our relationships. Through relatable examples and practical advice, this book illuminates ways in which partners can better understand each other's attachment needs, creating a deeper sense of connection and security.

What resonated most with me was Menanno's emphasis on the importance of recognizing and honoring each other's attachment styles. By acknowledging our individual needs and vulnerabilities, my husband and I are beginning to cultivate a more compassionate and supportive partnership. This book has provided invaluable tools for navigating conflicts and strengthening our emotional bond. Implementing the concept of co-regulation has quickly brought about a positive shift in the way we relate. It's amazing how rapidly things can change just by implementing a few simple tools.

On a recent family trip to NYC, my husband and I each finished reading “Secure Love” independently. During our drive home, we downloaded and listened to “Secure Love” on Audible, pausing briefly to discuss each chapter as it ended. I highly recommend this approach to anyone seeking their own secure relationship. Taking time to process the information first as individuals and then together, my husband and I both agree that it was almost as if we had read two separate books. Every once in a while, a book written so purely that you can draw what is needed at the time and later pick it back up and take away something completely different. “Secure Love” is one of those books. This is one of those books that facilitates continued learning based on current perspective. Who could ask for a better tool for their marriage than that? My husband and I have decided that in six months, we will repeat the process of reading the book alone and then listening to the audiobook together. We will probably adopt this practice indefinitely.

Reading "Secure Love" felt like embarking on a journey of self-discovery and growth alongside my partner. Menanno's insights provided a roadmap for fostering a relationship grounded in trust, empathy, and mutual understanding. I highly recommend this book to any couple seeking to deepen their connection and cultivate a more secure and fulfilling relationship.
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George Savitz
5.0 out of 5 stars The book I needed years ago
Reviewed in the United States on March 30, 2024
I started following Julie Menanno on Instagram and found that her content was so helpful and made so much sense in my own life that I had to buy her book. I’m halfway through the book and trying to take it slow so that I absorb and retain everything. This book is chock full of valuable tools, strategies and basic knowledge that most of us just never learn until we find ourselves in the middle of relationship distress and conflict. It’s a wonderfully-written, relatable book and it gives me so much hope for myself and for my partner. Secure Love has opened my eyes to how my attachment style (anxious) has led to me bringing stuff to the table that I didn’t even realize was hurting my current relationship. I thought I was quite familiar with my anxious attachment style before, but Julie’s insights and examples helped me see more closely (and take responsibility for) my part in the negative cycle. For the first time, I was able to leave a couple’s counseling session without getting defensive and I was able to validate my partner’s feelings without feeling the blinding shame and panic that it meant I was wrong or bad. I left feeling empowered and hopeful that the debilitating trauma I’ve experienced from a past relationship doesn’t have to keep showing up and damaging my current relationship. This book helps you better understand your attachment style and how you contribute to the health and dynamic of your relationship. It shows that there is a better, healthier, more fulfilling way to be in relationships that is very possible to achieve. It gives you the knowledge to look at yourself and make changes that will benefit you long-term, not just in the romantic relationship you’re currently in, but in your relationships with family, friends and with yourself.
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George Savitz
5.0 out of 5 stars The book I needed years ago
Reviewed in the United States on March 30, 2024
I started following Julie Menanno on Instagram and found that her content was so helpful and made so much sense in my own life that I had to buy her book. I’m halfway through the book and trying to take it slow so that I absorb and retain everything. This book is chock full of valuable tools, strategies and basic knowledge that most of us just never learn until we find ourselves in the middle of relationship distress and conflict. It’s a wonderfully-written, relatable book and it gives me so much hope for myself and for my partner. Secure Love has opened my eyes to how my attachment style (anxious) has led to me bringing stuff to the table that I didn’t even realize was hurting my current relationship. I thought I was quite familiar with my anxious attachment style before, but Julie’s insights and examples helped me see more closely (and take responsibility for) my part in the negative cycle. For the first time, I was able to leave a couple’s counseling session without getting defensive and I was able to validate my partner’s feelings without feeling the blinding shame and panic that it meant I was wrong or bad. I left feeling empowered and hopeful that the debilitating trauma I’ve experienced from a past relationship doesn’t have to keep showing up and damaging my current relationship. This book helps you better understand your attachment style and how you contribute to the health and dynamic of your relationship. It shows that there is a better, healthier, more fulfilling way to be in relationships that is very possible to achieve. It gives you the knowledge to look at yourself and make changes that will benefit you long-term, not just in the romantic relationship you’re currently in, but in your relationships with family, friends and with yourself.
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Amy G.
5.0 out of 5 stars A Must-Read for Anyone Interested in Attachment Theory!
Reviewed in the United States on May 28, 2024
This book is absolutely amazing! From the very first page, I was captivated by the engaging writing style and the depth of information presented. Julie masterfully explains the complexities of attachment theory in a way that is both accessible and insightful. Whether you're new to the subject or have a background in psychology, this book offers valuable perspectives and practical applications that are sure to enhance your understanding and appreciation of human relationships. Highly recommended for anyone looking to deepen their knowledge of attachment theory!
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Amy G.
5.0 out of 5 stars A Must-Read for Anyone Interested in Attachment Theory!
Reviewed in the United States on May 28, 2024
This book is absolutely amazing! From the very first page, I was captivated by the engaging writing style and the depth of information presented. Julie masterfully explains the complexities of attachment theory in a way that is both accessible and insightful. Whether you're new to the subject or have a background in psychology, this book offers valuable perspectives and practical applications that are sure to enhance your understanding and appreciation of human relationships. Highly recommended for anyone looking to deepen their knowledge of attachment theory!
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